A flossie to do list.

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Evening my loves.

Tonight I wanted to talk about my ‘Bucket List’. I don’t really like that term so mine shall be called ‘The Flossie To-do List’ `(if achieved before I’m 30 then that’s blooming marvellous but if it takes my whole life time I am okay with this).

I mean the concept of a bucket list has been around for a very long time and despite the hype I never boarded the bucket list bandwagon until now. I feel like kicking the bucket isn’t a very me term so I’m going to try and achieve all of these things before I flossie my way outta here! If I manage to achieve all that I set out to do then other things will be added because life is all about living and making dreamy memories right?

So without further a do… here it is

Flossie’s To-do List

  1. Ride in a tuk tuk.
  2. Go in a hot air balloon.
  3. Visit Canada.
  4. Spend Christmas in New York.
  5. Adopt a doggie.
  6. Have babies.
  7. Get married.
  8. Join some sort of water sports e.g. aqua aerobics.
  9. Hire a canal boat.
  10. Go on holiday just me and Will.
  11. See some bears in Alaska.
  12. Ride the Rocky Mountaineer Train.
  13. Take Dad and Mum to Abu Dhabi to F1 world and to see F1 racing.
  14. Own a mint green kitchen aid.
  15. Attend a festival.
  16. Go on a husky ride/own huskies.
  17. Stay in a teepee.
  18. Go skinny dipping.
  19. Achieve front door perfection.
  20. Visit Japan.

Better get started!

 

Be perseverant!

If life has taught me anything so far in my twenty one years on this earth, then it is this…

Be perseverant!

The unfortunate thing is that nothing is handed to us on a plate, we have to work for what we have, we have to actively seek experiences and jump at every single opportunity that we can take. As you may be aware, the path that I decided to embark on requires a fair amount of persistence. I’ve been bought up with the motto ‘if you persevere you shall get there eventually’ engraved into my very being.

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At every different stage in my life when something challenging has come my way, perseverance has seen me through!

So when I embarked on the perilous journey of being a law undergraduate 1 and a half years ago little did I know that a few months down the line perseverance would have got me into the position I am in today.

I’m one of those people who lack a little self belief, even though my fellow counterparts are either on par with me or slightly below par I never truly believe that I could get anything as wonderful and professional as they could. So maybe I simultaneously set myself up for failure without fulling acknowledging the matter?

One of my mothers favourite sayings is ‘if you never try you’ll never know? So what’s the harm in trying’ I think she has got use to her daughter frantically face timing her and declaring that I am  useless and unemployable and will never get anywhere in my chosen profession (that woman deserves a medal for the amount of times I’ve said that to her sprawled on my bed with mascara stained cheeks).

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The point is if I never spent those hours emailing firms, spicing up my CV with relevant degree based things and undertaking legal research certificates then maybe I wouldn’t be such a happy little lady like I am today *I’m deciding to ignore the fact I feel horrendous and literally collapsed into bed to wake up 4 hours later, 5 minutes before my flatmate got back from sports*

We all know experience in the world of employment is key, so little did I know when I emailed around all my local firms in late November that two would actually get back to me with the offer of placements and vital work experience!

I had fully prepared my back up plan over the last five days…

I would apply for a graduate job in my final year of undergrad studies, I would start earning straight away and the companies I planned to target said that there was ample opportunities to advance to more senior positions. I had it sussed, this was my back up plan. I told Will but he said something that struck me.

‘You should always aim high’ 

Now for those of you who don’t know me, this girl is definitely not a quitter (ok maybe I quit with driving at the ripe old age of 17) but I got back behind the wheel *albeit 4 years later*

So this most definitely struck a cord with me. It’s also an incredibly comforting fact to know that law is one of the most employable degrees so here’s hoping I do not get stuck in a coffee shop after years of reading cases and statute!

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In hindsight I could actually make it.

If I push and push, work out where I’m going wrong, work on those little issues, get my head down, choose the right modules that will be suited for me- there is a real possibility that I may possibly make it!

As long as there is a chance that after all these years of slugging over text books and being baffled by EU law and having to contend with complicated policies and statues this girl might one day make it.

So maybe we should all shoot for the stars and start having a little bit more faith in our own abilities. I always get so deep and philosophical around 1am/2am (which is highly problematic because this one has a 9am lecture on Fiscal Barriers to Trade (EU law) sounds riveting I know!

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Shoot for those stars

Love C xxx

Birthdays

Birthdays, they hold a fair amount of importance, but as I’m told the older you get the less people care unless it is a special one! If that is the case then people tend to go all out to celebrate!

My sister would be turning the big 1-8 this year, she would have been excited about being able to drink alcohol legally, she would have potentially had the joys of going out to town *note sarcasm* and either being preyed on by older men in Follies or absolutely rocking it out in Barbs! She might have been able to drive (unlike me) she might have had a boyfriend, she might have decided what career she was going to have, she might have got her life a heck of a lot more sorted than me! Then again she too might have fallen into a bush with a blow up air guitar after drinking ‘J20’…

It’s weird thinking about the what ifs. I did a typical me thing which is to turn on a thought provoking and tear jerking documentary on BBC which was called ‘before I kick the bucket’ and guess what? It made me think.

I am the lucky bugger who got to see her 18th Birthday as well as her twenty-first and if all goes to plan hopefully my 30th and 40th too!

I am the one who  chose her career path, I am the one who got it all!

I love to be challenged, I love it when something makes me re-evaluate all I am and stand for. This woman wanted to reach her 40th Birthday, she had SUCH a zest for life, full of fun and laughter and optimism even though she knew the end was inevitable. It got me thinking maybe I too should make a bucket list, maybe I should I have more zest for this crazy adventure that we are all on! Things like that just make you stop and think.

I think my twenty one years of life have been pretty darn amazing!

I mean there are far too many wonderful memories and things that have happened for me to pinpoint!

I stand by my vow that I aim to make my life as wonderful and dreamy as can be! I stand by my word not to take anything or anyone I have for granted and I promise mostly to myself to be appreciative of others and to be appreciative to myself! I have not done too badly up to this point. I am a thriving, happy and extremely grateful twenty one year old who looks back on everything, even the crappy things as an experience. Those things are still a part of my life, they still help make me who I am to this very day and for as long as I am alive and kicking I will never take a millisecond for granted. Life is incredibly unpredictable and will not wait for anyone. I seriously urge you to stop and think, think about your personal accomplishments, think about how many people love and appreciate you, think about the fact that you my friend are alive and kicking, you got time when a lot of others are on borrowed time. So here is my metaphorical cheers to this wonderful life of mine. I’m even feeling bloody grateful for the fact I have to get behind the wheel of a moving vehicle tomorrow!!!

Up to now I have seen and done some incredibly things and I have met people who will always hold a place in my heart. I have learnt how to love myself and how to love others, I have learnt the greatest gift of all – gratefulness. I have *fingers crossed because hey we never know* lots of time to do and see a lot of great things in my life. I am only starting out! Maybe I should at the very least pinpoint a few things I want to achieve in my lifetime and in a couple of years time I can stumble back across this post and hopefully be able to tick off some of these things!

  • I mean I would love to get a job as a solicitor.
  • I would love to settle down and have a house.
  • I would love to visit Cambodia and Vietnam.
  • I want to feel the adrenaline of riding in a Tuk-Tuk.
  • I want to do something for a charity which is close to my heart.
  • I want to spend a dreamy Christmas abroad lying on a beach with a cocktail or 10…
  • I want to be able to drive a manual car!
  • I want to graduate with a good degree
  • I want to get a dog (whether that will happen is up to debate)
  • I want to one day have my own children and be just as wonderful as my Mum!

I think those are a good place to start.

So I have a few to start with (not many are going to be completed within the foreseeable future however!

So here is to life, and here is to my darling sister who didn’t get the luxury of dreaming up a bucket list and kicked the bucket way too soon. Embrace it all ❤

Pep talks 101

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Morning my little autumnal webmakers! I am back this morning with a post that hopefully may help some of you out if you too are feeling like you a little stuck in a Novemer rut! The title of this post, Pep talks 101 may perhaps give the game away that this post is all about those little pep talks you get that inspire and encourage you to just keep plodding onwards! There are currently two main ‘pep providers’ in my life; my mum and Will. Both of them continue to inspire and encourage me and like to remind me about the ultimate goal and not any of the unnecessary rubbish which comes between that! I’m a girl sometimes I doubt my ability, sometimes I loathe my appearance and sometimes the way people treat you just makes you want to hide under the covers and long for a warm loving embrace. So when I’m feeling a little lost and sad I normally message my mum through whatsapp and we either have a facetime conversation or I message Will or phone him and he like my mum never fails to bring me around from my little sad ‘episode’. I actually enjoyed writing yesterdays list about dreamy plans this month so I thought well why not write a list on ways to be happy because believe me the little things DO make a big difference to improving ones happiness and outlook on life in general!

Ten ways to improve your happiness!

  1. Do not waste precious time on those who would not give you the light of day. You should start putting yourself first instead of others who are stomping over your happiness.
  2. Jealousy is a cruel cruel thing. It can make a person extremely bitter so never spend a minute of your time being that, it makes people act and talk in a way which just isn’t productive or remotely nice and it’s never nice to be on the receiving end.
  3. Have an end goal to work towards, i.e. there’s a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow but you just need to find a way to get it. There is a huge reward at the end of this journey and that should be your main focus. There is something worth a whole lot more than this but it’s going to take time and energy but it is worth it! So never lose sight of your ultimate goal!
  4. Fill your life with things that make you happy, like people. You know the one’s that despite whatever shoddy situation is going on never fail to make you crack a smile. The ones who offer hugs and stroke your hair and provide humour in pretty grim situations. Yes, those are the people you need to surround yourself with. These people are essentially part of your metaphoric cheerleading squad who will wave pompoms when the going gets tough.
  5. Don’t let the buggers get you down- unfortunately people will try to stomp their muddy boots over your happiness, they’ll tie your laces together and wait to watch to see if you fall. Now the key thing is to make sure before you stand up is to ensure that those buggers will NOT see you fall instead you will walk freely and their attempts of ruining your happiness will NEVER burst your happy bubble because YOU ARE stronger than their pettiness.
  6. Drink tea, tea makes EVERYTHING a heck of a lot better! So what you waiting for, get boiling that kettle and slip into a dreamy world of infused bliss!
  7. Split things up into little chunks, if you have a particular event or date that is significant then split time up into more manageable chunks i.e. term dates, holiday and special moments! When you split the months up it seems a hell of a lot more doable!
  8. Make a happy and inspiring playlist that you can always fall back on when you feel overwhelmed! Music always seems to help me out when I’m feeling a little blue!
  9. Have someone who you can call, skype, message when it is a particularly bad day, this person cares and loves you and just wants you to be happy and can offer a rational insight on the situation in hand!
  10. Find some form of release, whether that is exercise, baking, reading, blogging, colouring… whatever it is if it’s all getting to much take a few minutes and just release all that pent up crap in a productive way so to speak!

So my little munchkins there we have it, if I’m being honest this post is just as much for me as it is for anyone else! So let’s put the best foot forward and never lower ourselves to such a level! It’s ok! It’s ok! IT’S OK!

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Even when I’m a blubbing mess I can and WILL still be optimistic just like this little iced doughnut.

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